If I were a proponent of anything, it would be for you to remain as the truth of what you already are. Which is also to say, for you to be unapologetically You; all of You, which includes the Rawness of being Human.
The RawnessLet’s clarify. How much mental, emotional, and physical energy is spent on trying to avoid the natural flow in life? I’m speaking about internal resistance to what naturally arises within and all around you. If sadness happens, do you fight it and wish for it to go away? If anger happens, do you condemn yourself and proclaim that ‘someone like you’ shouldn't feel this way?
The question is, do you surrender to Life? Or, do you swim up stream with an argument that says life missed the memo about how it was ‘suppose’ to unfold? This is to say that your expectation is more valuable than the reality of reality.
The Rawness of Being Human, points to the natural You. The You that moves before the mind's commentary of right and wrong. The You that breathes before the imaginary you tries to breathe.
What exists that is in opposition to the Rawness of You? Omg… this is such a great question.
I’m asking, is there anything real that argues with the natural you, or is the argument just conditioned thought, sprung from a society that is simply insecure and afraid. Take sexuality for example… remember way back when, in a time when the woman was not encouraged to express herself sexually? (yes, still going on)
What is that? You see, there is this Rawness of sexuality where the human being is clearly with a sexual energy that moves from within. Is the conditioning that says it’s wrong, a real argument or opposition from Life, or is it a projection from the mind of man that is simply afraid to… ‘go there?’
Such a thing, especially within a male, can bring about tremendous insecurity when it is seen that a woman has tremendous sexual power that is more real than a man’s imaginary ego.
The same can be said about emotions. The collective fear says… Don’t express that emotion, because when I feel it in myself it makes me uncomfortable. Which is really to say, I don’t like being honest, and your emotions force me to see my own lack of sincerity.
Oh snap. We are really getting into it right now. lol.
Rawness, is SincerityIf there was a solution to overcoming fear, the key would be that of Sincerity. To sincerely be, with the movement that moves in right now. To not avoid the truth of what is, and to not hide from this truth as if it was wrong just because conditioning says so. Remember, social conditioning for the most part, is a movement to avoid insecurity. Which, humorously, is only to reinforce the reality where insecurity is a real thing.
For myself in this experience of life, or this… visit to Earth the Rawness of Being Human is expressed through the embrace of all things. This is also to say the embrace of any rejection to anything. Hmmmm, sounds like a contradiction to say… I embrace All things, and to say… I embrace my rejection of all things.
How can you embrace all things, while embracing your rejection of something? Isn’t this an acknowledgment that says I don’t embrace all things?
No, it’s simply being sincere. It’s like looking at ‘worry.’ Embracing all things while embracing the rejection of something is similar to embracing anxiety, without having anxiety about the anxiety. If anxiety or worry arises, because it’s what naturally arises, then it serves as a gift that points to a lesson to be discovered. However, if I rejected the anxiety in a way that says it shouldn’t be, or it’s wrong, then I turn away from any lesson that might be waiting to be seen.
The deeper question being asked, is am I being guided by sincerity or by a socially conditioned expectation birthed through fear? Often times, there is a fear to break away from this conditioning, to go out on your own authority without looking to society or others, to tell you what is natural or sincere. This of course is the invitation though, to see deeply that within you is a completion of self, a unity, an unapologetic movement that is whole.
The point is to embrace what arises, not to embrace an expectation of what should arise. As in, I will embrace the energy of anxiety as the current moment’s teacher, rather than embracing an expectation that says I shouldn’t be with anxiety. There is a profound shift in our relationship with the moment, where we fall into Life rather than running away from Life.
Sincerity is the embrace of what is; not hiding from a truth that threatens the imaginary you. Haha, reminds me of Sincerity in intimate relationships. How it is that we tend to avoid sincerity because we want to make sure our partner perceives us a certain way so they live up to an expectation we’ve placed on them. So we avoid communicating how we truly feel, out of fear their opinion of us might change. Which, humorously, is to proclaim that your wholeness of being exists partly in the thoughts of other people. hahaha. So silly we are.
Rawness of FailurePart of the major fear with our Rawness, is the concern that who you are will end up in utter failure. I ask you… Failure in what sense?
Failure in the sense that you don’t live up to a social expectation? Uh oh… do you really want to go here?
You see, we’ve missed the point of Living. The point of breathing, isn’t so you can get to next week’s event. The point of breathing is so that you can experience the reality of right now. (that’s so fucking profound dude, lol)
If you live a life with a focus of reaching an imaginary tomorrow, this is like living as you pretend to be something you are not so that you can be the fullness of you tomorrow. It is like living with anxiety in today, so you can be with peace in tomorrow. hahahaha.
This part cracks me up. The idea that failure is less important than its polar opposite which we will lightly call success. Do you notice that your profound moments of discovery, growth, or expansion have been birthed through something that could be perceived as failure? Do you see this?
Do you see that without the play of this polar opposite called failure, then success would never be experienced? And so, what is the point of living a life where one avoids the experience of failure?
Really, and I mean really, success and failure is the same thing, it is just one movement, one dance. So to avoid one side of the coin, is to avoid the fullness of the coin’s value. It’s like saying, I’m going to throw away the tails side of the coin, because I only want the head’s side of it. In your rejection of one side, you reject the whole damn coin. In your rejection of any one side of life, you reject all of Life. In your rejection of any part of you, you reject all of you.
Shhhhhhit… we could totally stop there. Actually yeah, let’s wrap it up.
To reject the Rawness of being Human, is to reject the fullness of what is. If there is anything to be rejected, reject that which is not real & embrace that which is real. What is not real, is the mental commentary that tells a story about an imaginary you.
To embrace all things, is to embrace the fullness of Reality, which is the fullness of right now. To embrace all, is to remain here in this moment. To reject this moment, to reject reality, is to chase an imaginary reality in the mind that exists only as thought in the form of conditioned expectations.
Return… to the Rawness of Life, and discover just how beautiful is, the Real You.
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