What I know about happiness is this:
That life can be really hard, and bad times will certainly come. It is how we cope with it to maintain a happy place in our heart that matters. Not all of my blog posts are public, and I have been thinking of posting them soon after the dust settles. I have had some really bad days, weeks and months within the past year when I have questioned everything about life.
What I do differently changes depending on what day it is. I may be going back and forth from my happy place to a non happy place...lol.
So where I am with this is actually recognizing that all that really matters is right now. This concept seems so strange, and I have to keep reminding myself of it many times a day. I guarantee if you do this it will change you and the way your life is unfolding. What is hard to absorb is that for 49 years I have been thriving off of stress and the reaction needed to correct the mess.
Now, what this means. Say it many times over and over. Last year and last month and yesterday when something happened that hurt or stressed us out ruined many a day, will be no more. Because, none of that matters. I know our brains tell us that it matters, because we miss people and we have regrets and moments of sadness. But really when it all comes down to it, all that really matters is right now. It matters where you are and that you are here reading this. Nothing else. Because right at this moment all is well.
How do I know this? and how can I believe this? A big thank you to Tiger Singleton, and his amazing ways taught through his school of blooming. SShhh he does not know I am writing about him today...lol. But really find him on Facebook and get yourself some great inspiring starts to your day.
Try the all is well thing a few times today. You have to catch yourself, while you are standing there in the kitchen worrying, and say all is well. right this moment, I am happy and am enjoying my life, right this moment. You will have to tell yourself this about 400 times the first month. I giggle when I say this because it may even appear that you are talking to yourself a bit more. JUST DON'T GIVE UP. Promise yourself that you will give it a few days, do not spend any time worrying about your ex or bills or the neighbors. Don't worry about your mom or your sister going out shopping without you. Let everyone around you be, and enjoy your moment. You are going to love this!
Keeping it real...some thing that I have been trying to do lately is that. Trying to find a way to still be myself when nothing is about me anymore. Struggles are so great for everyone and I am sure you have a long list as well. Not everyone is going to have the same challenges in life and sometimes the things that bother us the most are things that do not show up in our photo's. Invisible to others but they continue to eat at our souls until we have resolved them. So this is me , on a day that was nice. It is easy to post a photo after we have done our hair and picked out the perfect clothes, but on this day I did none of the above. I don't live near the ocean. I live on a small street in a small town in Missouri. In a small house. So my outlook is starting to change. Keeping it real. Wearing my sweatpants when I want. Brushing my hair less, maybe even cleaning less. Keeping it all together on the inside is much easier for me when I am not trying to keep it all together on the outside. I love gardening and am going to make this the best season ever, all while making a mess, lol. I read once, that one of your goals should be that when you have people over to your house, they should leave feeling better about themselves, not feeling better about you. And that totally meant why do I spend 4 hours cleaning when I know someone is coming by for 5 minutes? I must be crazy. So here I go, off to work and all the while ...keeping it so real people will be wondering all day what the heck is wrong with me :) and if your feeling the same way.... take the challenge and start just being you :)